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I personally have never believed people who
claim they choose to be single.
I mean, you may come to enjoy being single and
make the most out of it, but if your idea of Prince
Charming shows up one day, you’re not gonna
be like,
Sorry, Krall Jonathan, I’m busy treading a sea of
not-so-eligible candidates right now. Please come
back after I’ve had a few more meaningless one-
night stands and assh*le encounters.
While being single may not necessarily be a
choice, spending your time wisely as an
uncommitted 20-something is.
Instead of plotting how to land a man or being
envious of your friends who already have, take
this time to explore some valuable lessons that
every girl in her 20s should know so you’ll be
ready for Mr. Krall when he finally arrives.
1. Being Happy in Your Own Company
Being alone can be hard, but it’s important to not
be dependent on the company of others to be
happy.
No one likes a clinger, and your future boyfriend
will respect the fact that you have other interests
besides him and are capable of having a good
time all on your own. Read a good book, watch a
new movie, pick up a hobby or go jogging.
There are plenty of things you can do all by
yourself to stay entertained.
2. Mastering the Art of Self-Soothing
It’s great to have someone around to take care
of you when you’re sick, hug you when you’re
sad, or just listen to your problems.
For the times you don’t have that, however, you
should learn to master the art of self-soothing.
This is when a nice bottle of wine and a hot
bubble bath comes in. It’s always good to be able
to brush yourself off and keep going.
3. Being Happy for the Romantic Successes of
Others
Green is not a pretty color on anyone, and the
older you get, the harder it can be to be happy
for the romantic successes of others when you’re
still single. However, being bitter or resentful is
not going to attract the kind of energy and
attention you want.
Make a conscious effort to be happy for your
friends who are getting married or pregnant,
even if your romantic life is in the dumps. Your
time will come soon enough, and you will want
your friends to be happy and celebrate with you
when it does.
4. Not Living in the Past
You can’t spend your single years thinking about
the boyfriends you used to have or flowers you
used to get on random Tuesday mornings.
That part of your life is over; the sooner you put
it behind you and accept that, the sooner you’ll
be ready to move on to the next stage in your
life.
5. Not Idealizing Your Ex
We all have that one person who got away, and
you probably think of him or her from time to
time. Don’t — it’s useless. The chances of you
two being legitimate soul mates are slim to none.
The chances of you perfecting an image of
someone in your mind because you’re lonely and
crave familiarity? Much more probable.
6. Altering Your List Might Surprise You
Being single is the perfect time to reassess what
it is you really want out of a relationship. Are you
looking for someone to challenge you, make you
laugh or live a healthy lifestyle with you?
Be clear on what it is you’re looking for, and you
might be surprised to find you’re more open to
things that were previously deal breakers.
You might realize the rich doctor type you’ve
been chasing after hasn’t actually worked out for
you, and you want to give the struggling writer a
shot, instead. Be open to trying something new
and it might surprise you.
7. Recognizing the Value of Your Individualism
There’s no better time than when you’re single to
develop and appreciate your own train of
thought. No one likes a yes man, and you want
to be the kind of girl who can think meaningfully
about issues and problems without having to
resort to her boyfriend for his opinion first.
8. Settling Sucks
Yes, it’s tough to be single, but even worse than
being single is being in bad company. If you’re
doing everything else right, you should actually
be having a pretty decent time finding out more
about yourself as a person, spending time with
friends and family and excelling in your career.
Why would you want to ruin that by adding
someone to your life who only half interests
you? Don’t bother. At no point is settling ever a
good idea.
9. Make your own money!I repeat make your
own money!please stop letting men bash you up
and down becauses they think you can't live
without them (most especially nairaland guys! )
Make them realise nobody is indispensable!
I hate it when a young lady think she can only
survive collecting from men!damn!!!I be like "is
she dump
claim they choose to be single.
I mean, you may come to enjoy being single and
make the most out of it, but if your idea of Prince
Charming shows up one day, you’re not gonna
be like,
Sorry, Krall Jonathan, I’m busy treading a sea of
not-so-eligible candidates right now. Please come
back after I’ve had a few more meaningless one-
night stands and assh*le encounters.
While being single may not necessarily be a
choice, spending your time wisely as an
uncommitted 20-something is.
Instead of plotting how to land a man or being
envious of your friends who already have, take
this time to explore some valuable lessons that
every girl in her 20s should know so you’ll be
ready for Mr. Krall when he finally arrives.
1. Being Happy in Your Own Company
Being alone can be hard, but it’s important to not
be dependent on the company of others to be
happy.
No one likes a clinger, and your future boyfriend
will respect the fact that you have other interests
besides him and are capable of having a good
time all on your own. Read a good book, watch a
new movie, pick up a hobby or go jogging.
There are plenty of things you can do all by
yourself to stay entertained.
2. Mastering the Art of Self-Soothing
It’s great to have someone around to take care
of you when you’re sick, hug you when you’re
sad, or just listen to your problems.
For the times you don’t have that, however, you
should learn to master the art of self-soothing.
This is when a nice bottle of wine and a hot
bubble bath comes in. It’s always good to be able
to brush yourself off and keep going.
3. Being Happy for the Romantic Successes of
Others
Green is not a pretty color on anyone, and the
older you get, the harder it can be to be happy
for the romantic successes of others when you’re
still single. However, being bitter or resentful is
not going to attract the kind of energy and
attention you want.
Make a conscious effort to be happy for your
friends who are getting married or pregnant,
even if your romantic life is in the dumps. Your
time will come soon enough, and you will want
your friends to be happy and celebrate with you
when it does.
4. Not Living in the Past
You can’t spend your single years thinking about
the boyfriends you used to have or flowers you
used to get on random Tuesday mornings.
That part of your life is over; the sooner you put
it behind you and accept that, the sooner you’ll
be ready to move on to the next stage in your
life.
5. Not Idealizing Your Ex
We all have that one person who got away, and
you probably think of him or her from time to
time. Don’t — it’s useless. The chances of you
two being legitimate soul mates are slim to none.
The chances of you perfecting an image of
someone in your mind because you’re lonely and
crave familiarity? Much more probable.
6. Altering Your List Might Surprise You
Being single is the perfect time to reassess what
it is you really want out of a relationship. Are you
looking for someone to challenge you, make you
laugh or live a healthy lifestyle with you?
Be clear on what it is you’re looking for, and you
might be surprised to find you’re more open to
things that were previously deal breakers.
You might realize the rich doctor type you’ve
been chasing after hasn’t actually worked out for
you, and you want to give the struggling writer a
shot, instead. Be open to trying something new
and it might surprise you.
7. Recognizing the Value of Your Individualism
There’s no better time than when you’re single to
develop and appreciate your own train of
thought. No one likes a yes man, and you want
to be the kind of girl who can think meaningfully
about issues and problems without having to
resort to her boyfriend for his opinion first.
8. Settling Sucks
Yes, it’s tough to be single, but even worse than
being single is being in bad company. If you’re
doing everything else right, you should actually
be having a pretty decent time finding out more
about yourself as a person, spending time with
friends and family and excelling in your career.
Why would you want to ruin that by adding
someone to your life who only half interests
you? Don’t bother. At no point is settling ever a
good idea.
9. Make your own money!I repeat make your
own money!please stop letting men bash you up
and down becauses they think you can't live
without them (most especially nairaland guys! )
Make them realise nobody is indispensable!
I hate it when a young lady think she can only
survive collecting from men!damn!!!I be like "is
she dump